After Prison, A Mom Finds Her Way Back Into Her Daughter's Life

Jan 6, 2017
Originally published on January 6, 2017 11:03 am

When Kayla Wilson was 15, her mom — Wendy Founds — was in prison serving a three-year term for felony drug charges. When Founds was 15 she started using drugs, and at some point became addicted to methamphetamines.

"When I asked Mom how she got started she told me that after her Paw-Paw died she was just mad at the world and mad at God, and that's when she told one of her ex-boyfriends that she wanted to get high," Kayla said during a 2006 visit to StoryCorps with her grandmother, Teri Lyn Coulter-Colclasure.

When Founds got busted, she was at home, Kayla explained.

"And I think they were making dope and it had spilled on my younger sister. And it was just so heartbreaking to understand that this is what's going on and this is how it's going to be. When I saw her in prison it was horrible because you see her come out of the door in that white suit. And her hair was gone. And she loved her long hair and I just had to cry. And then having to say bye and holding onto her knowing you couldn't take her with you was the most horrible experience I've ever had."

Back then, Kayla hoped that when her mom got out of prison, she would get to be a child for a change.

"Not have to worry about being the mature responsible adult," she said. "I think that it'll really be nice."

Founds was released from prison in 2008.

Ten years after Kayla's StoryCorps visit, 43-year-old Founds joined her daughter at StoryCorps to talk about the past. Like what she remembers about the day she got out of prison.

"I remember how you smelled, it was vanilla," Founds said. "And I remember the relief of, our lives get to really start from this point forward."

Kayla, now 25 and a high school teacher, remembers her mom's apology.

"I think that was a defining moment for us, because I got to tell you what I'd always wanted to tell you which was that, you know, you can never make up for that time," she said.

Founds cried for days after that conversation, but says what she heard helped her become a better mom.

Kayla also admitted wishing her mom was different back in those days.

"I can remember, you know, writing in diaries about how much I hated you because you chose drugs over me," she said.

But in the end, she forgave her mom.

"When you finally decided to get clean, it was obvious you were sincere," she said. "And you're my mom, and as my mom, I loved you. I wanted that relationship.

"Sure would have been great to have [it] growing up, but I'm happy you're here and I'm happy we're where we're at today," Kayla continued. "And I think what we've got is awesome considering where we've been. So I'm excited to see what happens next."

Founds, who lives with Kayla, helps counsel other parents struggling with addiction. She was granted a pardon by Gov. Asa Hutchinson for her felony convictions on March 4, 2016.

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DAVID GREENE, HOST:

And that music means it is time for StoryCorps. Today, two conversations recorded 10 years apart. Recently, 25-year-old Kayla Wilson sat down with her mom at StoryCorps. We'll hear that interview in a bit, but first a conversation from 2006. Kayla was 15 at the time, and her mom was serving a three-year prison sentence on felony drug charges. Kayla talked to her grandmother Teri Lyn Coulter-Colclasure about her mom's drug addiction.

KAYLA WILSON: When I asked mom how she got started, she told me that after her papa died, she was just mad at the world and mad at God. And that's when she told one of her ex-boyfriends that she wanted to get high.

TERI LYN COULTER-COLCLASURE: How old was she when this happened?

WILSON: Fifteen, I think.

COULTER-COLCLASURE: You're right.

WILSON: Yes, ma'am. When she got busted she was at a house. And I think they were making making dope and it had spilled on my younger sister. And it was just so heartbreaking to understand that this is what's going on and this is how it's going to be. When I saw her in prison, it was horrible because you see her come out of the door in that white suit. And her hair was gone, and she loved her long hair and I just had to cry. And then having to say bye and holding on to her knowing you couldn't take her with you was the most horrible experience I've ever had.

COULTER-COLCLASURE: When your mom gets out of prison, what do you think your life is going to be like?

WILSON: I think I will have the ability to actually be a child for a little bit and not have to worry about being the mature responsible adult. I think that it'll really be nice.

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WENDY FOUNDS: My name is Wendy Founds. Today's date is December the 12, 2016, and I am here with my daughter.

WILSON: You remember the day you were released from prison and got to come home?

FOUNDS: I do (laughter). I remember how you smelled, it was vanilla. And I remember the relief of our lives get to really start from this point forward.

WILSON: I do remember specifically when you came home and you wanted to apologize. I think that was a defining moment for us because I got to tell you what I'd always wanted to tell you, which was that, you know, you can never make up for that time.

FOUNDS: I bawled for days after that conversation, but it helped me to be a better mom, and I'm still far from perfect. Did you ever wish that I was different?

WILSON: Yeah, for sure. I can remember, you know, writing in diaries how much I hated you because you chose drugs over me.

FOUNDS: Why did you decide to forgive me?

WILSON: When you finally decided to get clean, it was obvious you were sincere. And you're my mom and, you know, as my mom, I loved you. I wanted that relationship.

FOUNDS: Did that come too late?

WILSON: I don't think so. Sure would have been great to have growing up, but I'm happy you're here, and I'm happy where we're at today. And I think what we've got is awesome considering where we've been, so I'm excited to see what happens next.

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GREENE: That was Kayla Wilson with her mom Wendy Founds at StoryCorps. Kayla is now a high school teacher in Benton, Ark., and Wendy helps counsel other parents struggling with addiction. And their interview will be archived in the Library of Congress.

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